IF EVERYONE LIKES YOU, YOU’RE DOING IT WRONG
When I first saw this I totally cracked up! I just adored little cartoon Tim, his red balloons and his spunky attitude.
Now, don’t get me wrong – of course, we all want to be loved. Love is our true nature. But what I’m talking about here is not wasting your time and energy wanting to be liked by everyone.
If you keep looking outside of yourself for validation, if you keep wanting everyone to like you, understand you or celebrate you, you’re going to be disappointed.
Somebody once told me that about 15% of people are just not going to like you. Maybe it’s your Boston accent? Maybe you didn’t invite them to a party back in junior high? Maybe there’s something about you that makes them feel annoyed, jealous, angry, or whatever. Maybe they’re kind of nuts? But at some point, the revelation comes – no matter what you say or do: They. Just. Don’t. Like. You.
It took me a long time to learn this and accept it – but as I’ve gotten older and more comfortable in my own skin, this realization has actually become quite freeing to me.
Think about it. If 100% of people think you’re the cat’s meow – it may mean that you’ve become a professional people pleaser. Someone whose mastered the art of twisting and torquing yourself into whatever false version of “you” – you hope others will find most palatable. This game is not only super exhausting but also completely soul sucking. So not soothing.
In order to live authentically, you’re going to have to be willing to take some risks and play big. In order to answer the call of your heart, you might have to color outside the lines, take the road less travelled and maybe just maybe, not fit in.
In order for you to be who God has intended you to be – to truly serve in the way that YOU were meant to serve, you just might have to write your story, speak your truth, start that project, share your gifts and shine kind of bright. This can cause the side effect of making others uncomfortable – which can lead to you not always being popular.
IF EVERYONE LIKES YOU, YOU’RE DOING IT WRONG.
On the other hand, if everyone has a problem with you – then it’s important to check that out too. Slow down, get quiet, get real and take a good look at your thoughts, words and actions. Ask yourself some tough questions about how you interact and communicate with others. Search your heart and see if you’re living your life from a place of Love or Fear. Consider this opportunity to get to know yourself a little better a gift.
At the end of the day, if you can take a look in the soul mirror and truly like the person you discover there – then take a glorious moment and rejoice in who you are. Grab yourself a handful of red balloons, accept that fact that not everyone’s going to like you and like Tim – set yourself free!